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Dear Sharon,

One of the biggest ways I feel stuck is often having trouble with the times of today. To be more specific, how to parent children of growing up today. I feel because of all the over stimulation and instant gratification as well as the lacking of just playing outside their souls are in desperate need of just being....being in nature especially. I struggle with this daily, and sometimes feel I need to "get with the times", however, my soul feels differently....

On a personal note, my divorce was final this year and this makes my soul HAPPY! Thanks!

The response from your Angels:

Take heart, mother. You were once young as well and even then, you received too much of this or that. Perhaps what you received too much of was parental neglect or lack of attention in the ways you needed (to put it nicely).

Your children's childhood may error in other ways, however it is doubtful that it will have any long lasting damaging effects. We say this because they have a most loving mother at the helm. You would not be asking these questions about balance for your children if you were not focused on their good.

We ask you to please model for them that very same balance. Model it because they learn by seeing and doing and experiencing your happiness as a result.

When you decided to leave your marriage, you also were modeling for them something far more important to their happiness than perhaps the right amount of outdoor play vs. over stimulating technology. You were making a statement about your happiness and your right to claim it for yourself. It seems perhaps a somewhat unpopular statement to make....that you should be proud of a divorce for how it affects your children. But we say, indeed yes.

For your growth over the years of learning about yourself during all the moments of anguish has resulted in much deeper wisdom than most mother's hold within their being. Your essence then, your "beingness" is what your children spend time around when they are with you. We will say to you that when they are with you, my dear one, they smell the flowers and see the sunshine within your heart. For you have taken a stand on self love as "no other". We say this because no other needed to take a stand as you did, in quite the same way.

Everyone is unique and you needed to own your truth and act on it. Your children need your essence and your understanding of life so that they can have the tools with which to address their own challenges, perhaps their own choices at a future date. Be at peace knowing that your essence then is what you know supports them.

Do the best that you can in guiding them into activities that spark their creativity and ease, not heighthen their fears. But know that we are always with you if you want to speak to us about your individual questions. Ask us if exposing the children to this or that will be detrimental. Your children are old souls. Not much will surprise them. In fact, it may show them contrasts and differences that they will process and become all the more wiser.

We are very blessed to have received your questions as in effect there are many in the one...and of course the answer is always love. Loving yourself your whole life is what is now providing your children the best possible environment.

Your angels.